Today, I was challenged about sharing a meme about fathers loving their children. I was told that the term should be “care givers” if I was to be PC.
The thing is, I am not that PC, as in i am a human being living in a world full of challenges for so many people. I live my life to the values I hope take all people into account, but there is a line betwixt language and culture.
I will not deliberately try to offend anyone by using language I believe to be oppressive, I will, however, continue to live in a world where my knowledge and experience are what I base my views upon. I am happy to learn from others, but am I hope realistic, and as such see the continual changes in what is supposedly politically acceptable and what isn’t as at times oppressive in itself.
If you wish to oppress people one of the first tactics you use is you stop them speaking out, and the easiest way to do that is to publicly discredit their use of language.
In this instance I shared a meme that fitted with my personal experience. It was not a comment upon gender fluidity nor any other topic. I have been for many years the target of parental alienation.
I am a father, not a care giver, because due to that alienation I gave not been able to provide the care I wished to give. I do not give a bloody damn about what the latest terms should be I am a father to my children, even if only currently in name only. So I may offend people by not using the correct trendy term, but they offend me by stealing the only value of my life from me.
Jonesy, simply a human 